Comments on: Jealous Much? SECOND in a series to help you change jealousy into inspiration http://theirrepressiblewriter.com/2010/02/08/jealous-much-second-in-a-series-to-help-you-change-jealousy-into-inspiration/#utm_source=feed&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=feed Helping you build and maintain resilience for your writing...and your life. Sun, 18 Jul 2010 14:43:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Carol Grannick http://theirrepressiblewriter.com/2010/02/08/jealous-much-second-in-a-series-to-help-you-change-jealousy-into-inspiration/comment-page-1/#comment-132 Carol Grannick Tue, 16 Feb 2010 16:28:53 +0000 http://theirrepressiblewriter.com/?p=640#comment-132 Thanks, as always, for your comments, Lisa. I'll actually be writing about "distraction" as a healthy alternative to rumination in the near future. Your thoughts about having the personal connection is interesting. I wonder how that feels to others. If you're reading this, does not knowing someone make the jealousy worse? Does having a relationship make it less worse? Thanks, as always, for your comments, Lisa. I’ll actually be writing about “distraction” as a healthy alternative to rumination in the near future.
Your thoughts about having the personal connection is interesting. I wonder how that feels to others. If you’re reading this, does not knowing someone make the jealousy worse? Does having a relationship make it less worse?

]]> By: Lisa Nowak http://theirrepressiblewriter.com/2010/02/08/jealous-much-second-in-a-series-to-help-you-change-jealousy-into-inspiration/comment-page-1/#comment-130 Lisa Nowak Tue, 16 Feb 2010 16:09:43 +0000 http://theirrepressiblewriter.com/?p=640#comment-130 I think it's very important to put forth good energy as you're describing. You have to be there for your friends and writing community, even when it's difficult. You can look at this as investing in your own future. After all, if you're not there for others, how can you expect them to be there for you when your time comes? Sometimes it's just too painful, and then I think it's good to take a break. Offer your congratulations, then go do something to distract yourself. Take a break from their blog, etc. until you can participate in their life without it being too painful. One thing I've discovered is that having a personal connection to the successful person helps eliminate the jealousy. I've heard about people who had insanely unrealistic luck, and it was hard not to resent that. But when I spent time with those people, I found so much to like about them that I couldn't go on resenting them. It's a lot harder to be jealous of a friend than a stranger. I think it’s very important to put forth good energy as you’re describing. You have to be there for your friends and writing community, even when it’s difficult. You can look at this as investing in your own future. After all, if you’re not there for others, how can you expect them to be there for you when your time comes?

Sometimes it’s just too painful, and then I think it’s good to take a break. Offer your congratulations, then go do something to distract yourself. Take a break from their blog, etc. until you can participate in their life without it being too painful.

One thing I’ve discovered is that having a personal connection to the successful person helps eliminate the jealousy. I’ve heard about people who had insanely unrealistic luck, and it was hard not to resent that. But when I spent time with those people, I found so much to like about them that I couldn’t go on resenting them. It’s a lot harder to be jealous of a friend than a stranger.

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